Our Goal for You
Take your Marriage to the next level... and keep taking it higher!
Passion
Reignite and keep and nurture the flame of passion
Connection
Strengthen the bonds of your Marriage
Romance
Feel the power of romance every day
Open Minds and Hearts are all that's required
Vulnerability
Intimacy
Hope
Cooperation
Our Secret
Since 1998, when our foundress, Vivian, created the BetterSpouses website, we have been advising married couples and helping them reignite the spark in their marriage and carry that spark forward into a lifetime of marital devotion.
We began by learning from Vivian, and then helping one another, and then others, to attain and maintain the elusive dual goals of security and excitement in their marriages.
A long, loving marriage is not a destination, but a journey. A journey that Wife and hubby take together and that is forever deepening.
Getting started can be the hardest part, but we are here to help you on your way. The dynamic is counterintuitive and requires behaviors that often feel inconsistent with both spouses' personalities. That is why we offer anonymous email guidance without charge. We are couples who are enjoying long loving marriages and simply want to give back by helping others attain the same happiness and security in their marriages.
TESTIMONIALS
The Dynamic
The Right One in Charge
Who Knows Best?
In 90% of marriages it is the Wife who thinks the most deeply and frequently about "the relationship." It is the Wife who makes the most emotional and physical effort to make a happy home.
Shouldn't SHE be the one in charge? Of Course She should!
Who needs the most guidance?
In 90% of marriages it is the hubby who needs to be told what to do, to be told what is actually going on. He may be great at work/at his job, but at home hubby is often clueless. Often, hubby WANTS to be clueless. It allows him to hide. Should hubby be in charge? No! hubby needs guidance. And he KNOWS it! (don't you hubby?)
Who Knows Most?
Living, Being and Working Together Smoothly
When these truths are understood cognitively and reinforced emotionally and physicaly, Wife and hubby can meld together seamlessly-- Yin and Yang. There is no desire for competition and no cause for conflict.
The cognitive task of understanding this is easy. The task of reinforcing that emotional understanding is a process. A process you might find surprising or even strange at first. But it is a process you both will come to cherish.
We are here to help you understand and implement that process.
Intimacy and Romance
The best part about this dynamic is not the smooth-running household and reduced burden for the Wife. The best part is the closeness and fun this creates for both spouses. The path is not easy (for him), but it leads to wonderous vistas!
The increased attention you pay to another is its own reward as your marriage grows more secure and fulfilling.
In 90% of marriages it is the Wife who knows what is going on; knows each family member's schedule and needs; know what needs to be done and when. Shouldn't she be the one delegating? Shouldn't she have a partner to whom she CAN delegate?
Principles
Principles of a Long Loving Marriage.
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Marriage is the foundation of healthy families and the foundation of a just society.
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Faithfulness of Heart, Mind, and Body to the marriage is essential to the health of the individual and the family.
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Sexual fidelity need not be dull and unimaginative. It can be more exciting and fulfilling than any alternative. .
CONTACT
hubbies get one email only
Wive's receive unlimited email support
